Preparing for change- Laleham

Preparing for Change – parenting in the pre-teen years

This new and ground-breaking 3 session course is being offered to all parents of children in year 5 or 6 at Laleham Primary School.

Designed to assist parents in managing the changes in behaviour and attitude that the teen and preteen years can bring, and preparing their child- and themselves - for the challenges ahead. The course is based on new understanding of the neurological changes in adolescence, the implications of these for behaviour and education and how to adapt the way children are parented in the pre teen years to make living with a teenager and helping them reach their full potential less challenging for the whole family.

 

The course is organised into 3 two-hour interactive workshop sessions each with a different but linked focus.

Scroll down for session details.

Session 1 – Preparing for the teen years

Thursday 9th November - 6.30pm to 8.30pm

 

We now know that the changes in behaviour and attitude during adolescence are not caused by ‘hormones’ (although these can certainly contribute to mood change and increased aggression) they are caused by a major re-structuring of the brain which can result in whole aspects of a child’s personality or behaviour seeming to reverse or disappear almost overnight. Empathy, risk assessment, identifying outcomes, communication, allegiances and changing sleep patterns are just a few of the areas to undergo change. We’ll be looking at recent findings in adolescent neuro biology and the implications of these for your child.

 

  • Understanding and managing changes in
  • relationships
  • priorities
  • behaviour
  • belief and focus
  • communication and empathy
  • attitude and performance at school
  • risk behaviour
  • self worth and self esteem

 

 

Session 2 – Behaviour management in the preteen years

Thursday 16th November - 6.30pm to 8.30pm

 

We know that trying to establish new parenting behaviour during adolescence is frequently unsuccessful, so changes and expectations need to be made before the onset of adolescence so that these have time to become established and routine.

 

We will be looking at establishing best practice in

  • Linking responsibilities and privileges as children develop
  • ‘Respectful’ but boundary led parenting – repositioning parents and children
  • Creating and maintaining effective communication
  • Conflict and oppositional behaviour management
  • Identifying and supporting mental health concerns from depression to eating disorders

 

 

Session 3 – Supporting a smooth transition to secondary school

Thursday 23rd November - 6.30pm to 8.30pm

 

How well children transition to secondary school is seen as a broad indicator of future success both academically and socially.

Schools make every effort to induct pupils into their new environment and society, whilst as parents there are many things that only they can do to help the transition go as smoothly as possible in the months leading up to the move.

We will explore the most common fears and concerns children have leading up to transition and how we can help the child overcome any concerns with confidence and honed skills. We’ll also be exploring what research tells us are the qualities, behaviours and attitudes that have been shown to lead to successful young people who are neither picked on by others or do the picking on, have good self esteem and work consistently to their ability level.

 

We will be sharing techniques and practical approaches to help children

  • Manage their relationships with others honestly but kindly
  • Form and maintain good quality friendships
  • Manage new systems and develop their own coping strategies for these
  • Self evaluate honestly but kindly
  • Balance home, school and social lives
  • Manage anxiety and stress

 

Booking

Places are limited so please book at the school office. Places cost £25 per person for the full course - participants are expected to attend all 3 sessions.