For the time being all courses and workshops are online. They take place live and you will need to book a place in advance. You will recieve your workshop link 24 hours before the workshop. Places are limited - when the session is full you will be offered the option of joining the waiting list.
Places cost £10 each and payment is by Paypal only. Some reduced cost places are available on most workshops, these are reserved for those who cannot afford to pay full price. Please contact me if you would like to be considered for one.
How we manage a child's behaviour depends a lot on their age and neurological development. What works well for a 9 year old may well make a 6 year old feel bad about themselves or feel damaging shame. This workshop is all about what research (and 40 years experience) tells us works for children at different stages of childhood and pre-adolescence. This is a great first workshop for anyone new to Gill Hines' sessions as it covers all the basic principles and techniques for helping children to:
As well as some guidance on keeping your cool and being clear, the two things many parents find hard to do after a trying day.
In days gone by we called them 'shy' children or sometimes just quiet but today we realise that behind their shyness is often a fear or worry about how to behave, what others will think of them and what might happen next. Anxiety can appear at almost any age and may show itself as an inability to sleep, tummy aches on the way to school or a social gathering or just simply an unwillingness to participate in activities with others, including schoo.
Some anxious children are fine with others but frightened at night or when they are alone - with nightmares and poor sleep patterns or a constant desire for company.
Whatever the anxieties your child might have here is a workshop to explore some of the causes and ways of supporting anxious children of any age to feel more in control and overcome their worries before they become too entrenched and hard to shift.
Does your child come to you to:
‘fix’ their relationship problems and sort things out?
make everyday decisions for them but expect to be allowed to make their own when they want?
do everything they need doing then complain when expected to help out or manage themself?
This workshop will help you understand how we learn to be resilient and independent and how parents and families can support their child as they grow with sorting out problems with peers, taking care of their own wellbeing both emotionally and physically and knowing how to get the right sort of help from the right person when they need it.
We'll also be considering how we help children grow into self-reliant and capable adults and at what age a child should start to do things for themselves- from making their own packed lunch to changing their own bed and doing the laundry.
Many schools are now using the 'growth' or 'fixed' mindset terminology as a tool for describing the way a child or young person thinks and behaves. The fixed mindset person is competitive with others and sees their value and success in terms of hierarchy, feels jealous or resentful at the success of others and won't persevere at things they find too difficult. The growth mindset person competes against themselves and their own past performance and uses the success of others as a learning resource. They take on new things with enthusiasm and see failure as a stepping stone to mastery.
The important thing here is that these are learnt behaviours and thinking styles, not inborn ones so with the right support and direction any child can develop a growth mindset and make their life all about the many small sucesses of every day rather than the occasional shameful failures. This workshop is all about the things a parent can do, say and demonstrate that will help their child or young person develop a more exciting outlook on themselves and their world.
It's a sad fact that research shows confidence in girls drops by an enormous 30% during adolescence. Those wonderful feisty children become anxious worriers - self conscious and afraid to be their best self in case others dislike them for it.
Boys as a group don't have the same problem - confidence rates stay much the same so why is it that girls change so dramatically, and what can we do to help them stay brave and confident in their own abilities, likeability and personhood?
This two hour workshop is not about managing anxiety - there are other workshops for that, this workshop is for parents of girls between 10 and 14 years old who are noticing confidence changes in their daughters or who simply want to know how to help their young women grow into fearless young adults.
We'll be looking at why the changes happen, how they show themselves and how we can teach girls ways of managing their thought patterns and destructive behaviours such as self criticism, over reliance on the opinions of others for their self worth, overthinking and catastrophising. All set within a home in which resilience, self reliance and personal responsibility are modelled and celebrated.